No matter how positive a person you may be, at some point, there will come a time where you will surely have to deal with negative people.
All it takes is one negative person to ruin the energy around you and to bring everyone else down, so it becomes vitally important for you to know to quickly handle such situations.
Imagine, having a set of elegant strategies you could deploy at will, and instantly remove any toxicity in your life, or at the very least, severely reduce its impact? Well, the following 4-step system will show you exactly how.
Step 1 ~ Shower With Affection
Step 2 ~ Using Silence To Defend Your Honour
Step 3 ~ Realisation Of Your True Nature
Step 4 ~ Bring Out The Sword!
Step 1 ~ Shower With Affection
The first step is to address the negativity of a particular person by showering them with love and affection. In doing so, you will nearly always break down any barriers between the two of you and force the other person to withdraw into their own consciousness and re-examine their conduct.
Always remember, everyone has their own path in life and you never really know what struggles they are truly going through.
As such, you can make yourself an extremely powerful leader to beyond someone’s behaviour and to never look down on anyone, even if they look down on you.
Simply acknowledge any situation which comes your way and learn to accept the other person exactly the way they are.
It becomes very difficult for someone to be negative towards you when you are showing nothing but love and understanding towards them.
In my experience, this technique can eliminate any negativity at least 80% of the time, without having to do anything else.
Step 2 ~ Using Silence To Defend Your Honour
If being caring and affectionate does not work, you should then move onto the next stage, where you utilise the power of silence to break down any negativity.
Whenever we feel unfairly attacked or unceremoniously insulted, our innate reaction is to answer or fight back with immediate effect.
Our sense of injustice propels us to a vigorous course of action with a relentless pursuit of our perpetrators, but at what cost to our sense of mental and emotional well being?
Even if we manage to overturn a wrong accusation, there always seems to remain a lingering feeling of sadness and frustration for being vindicated in the first place.
The alternative course of action is to remain idle and do nothing, but such an option can only prolong one’s misery and sink us deeper into a sense of victimisation. It’s almost as though whether we react or do nothing, both outcomes move us from our balanced state of mind. So in such a given situation, what is one supposed to do?
As always, yogic wisdom shows us a way to react with courage, dignity and composure, yet still, maintain a strong sense of urgency and conviction in our response. This wisdom teaches us to utilise our silence in a powerful manner, which shakes our attackers to the very core of their being. Let me explain further.
Words can never express the full nature of our true feelings or emotional state. Indeed words can only give rise to more words in response, and thus result in a further sense of energy dissipation and separateness from those around us.
Have you ever noticed how in modern times, when we indulge in long email exchanges at work, very quickly, the focus and intent of the initial email is lost, and our conversations end up without any clarity of focus or direction? Simple issues become grossly distorted and nothing seems to get resolved.
The ancient Yogis knew the phenomenon of the mind and how words could only ever confuse a volatile situation. Words are thought in the brain, spoken by the mouth, listened by the ears and then processed in the brain once again. The whole communication with words is entirely focused on the body and is derived purely from the space in our head.
The problem lies in that feelings and emotions don’t materialise in the head, they grow from the heart, and words can never truly represent what the heart is saying.
It can come close, but there will always be some distance, and hence why using more words to resolve a dispute usually only intensifies the situation. Words should only be used to make your point but nothing more.
Silence does not use any of our bodily facets; it comes straight from and can only be experienced by the heart. The silence we are speaking about here is not the type that comes from meekness or timidity, on the contrary, this silence comes from forcefulness and complete awareness.
Such a silence withdraws us from the gross body level and takes us inwards into the very essence of our being. We unite with our higher conscious mind at a level where we are all connected at a very subtle level. From this space, it is very easy to convey your true feelings to all those around you.
Your hurt and anger can be felt by others. Your sadness and disappointments are transferred to those who initiated your pain.
At the level of the heart, the truth can never be distorted or compromised. Words, actions and gestures may have hidden meanings or agendas, but the heart can only speak the truth.
By becoming strong within yourself, and growing a strong faith and conviction in the power of your very being, you can move mountains through the power of your consciousness. Your attackers will feel your innate truth burning in the depths of their own consciousness.
Until they rectify the wrong they have caused, the truth will eat away at their very existence and whatever anguish they have caused you, will only be multiplied by what they begin to feel themselves.
The only solution for your attackers would be to take the right actions if anything for their own salvation.
The application of silence is a powerful and skilful tool which the yogis teach through various meditative techniques and sutras written in the scriptures. Silence teaches us to unite with our universal selves and unite with everybody on the same subtle level.
The same way you cannot hit your own body and start fighting with yourself, no other person can also attack you once you truly connect with them. In doing so, they only harm themselves. Silence teaches us, in reality, there is no “other” person, just one infinite energy we call life.
Never confuse this powerful silence or meditative state with passiveness or weakness. Silence is both our shield and sword in fighting for the truth; a yogi never takes a backwards step, yet always maintains an aura of peace, love, strength and compassion.
We too can do the same when we learn to apply these ancient techniques. The philosophy of this leadership wisdom is more relevant today than at any other time, learning its hidden secrets is what makes us indestructible in this very lifetime.
Silence can only speak one language, the truth; faith in its powers is what can protect us from any situation at any moment in time.
Step 3 ~ Understand Your True Nature
OK, so now you have tried showing with love and affection and then moved onto using silence to defend your honour, yet what to do now if the negativity still persists? The answer is quite simple, you move onto step 3, which is to understand your true nature.
Always remember, any person, words, situation, environment or energy can only affect you if YOU give them permission to. If you can just under and this one simple idea, you can instantly take complete control of your life.
Start developing the art of going within and realising 100% of your actual existence resides in your soul. What the world see’s on the outside is just a mere reflection of your mind’s projection. Just be present, keeping your full attention on your inner world.
Can any criticism affect the wind?
Can any criticism affect the sun?
Can any criticism affect the rain?
Can any criticism affect the moon?
nothing can affect nature…. the same way nothing can affect your true nature.
Your true nature is your very own soul, keep your connection with your soul and not in the outside world, and you will instantly become as strong as the elements.
From now on, your questions should be “how do I connect with my inner world and not how to I avoid people in my physical existence?”
Do so, and you will never be bothered by anyone or any negativity again.
Don’t give importance to any mentally weaker than yours. Surround yourself with positive people, engage yourself with daily wisdom, nurture your soul with positivity and keep moving forward with your head held high.
A problem only becomes a problem if you allow it to be. The world is waiting for you to shine, don’t waste another moment on anything taking you away from your true path, your life story is waiting to be told, stay focused on revealing it.
Step 4 ~ Bring Out The Sword
If you have skillfully managed the above three steps, every situation you find yourself in can easily be resolved. However, if all else fails and you are left with no choice, then, and only then, do you use step 4 and fight back by bringing out the sword!
Fighting back should always be the last option, but even when doing so, you must have full awareness and dispassion with your very own actions.
Intuition will guide you, and the further you delve into your own consciousness, the easier it becomes to make the right decisions.
Make sure you only ever use the right amount of force, in the right situations, to the right person and only as much as is necessary to diffuse any negativity around you.
In ancient days, both a soldier and a priest would practice the application of the above wisdom. Ancient wisdom is not about judging what is right and what is wrong, it’s main concern is to keep you centred, and ensure you are always moving forward in life so you may live to your true and highest potential.
In reality, once you skillfully apply the first 3 steps, you will never actually need to bring out the sword, but it’s always good to know you have it with you as an option.
Go through these 4 steps once again, only this time applying the wisdom to any difficult situations you may be experiencing right now.
With just a little bit of practice and perseverance, you will become a master at handling any negativity with absolute elegance and style.