The whole world is searching for more love, yet does anyone really know what true love actually means?
Many people have varying ideas, but as always, Yogic Wisdom provides us with so much clarity and simplicity when discussing this matter. Isn’t it so much easier to find attain your goal, once you, first of all, know, what it is you are actually looking for?
Well, the following post will help you to understand what true love really means, and then make it so much easier for you to go and find it:)
Reality Is Just Our Perception
Our eyes do not actually see anything, they are merely a lens to filter and reflect different vibrations of light into our brain.
Our mind then processes these vibrations and turns them into a mental image. Similarly, our ears do not actually hear anything; they simply filter vibrations of sound that our mind then processes to create a mental sound.
The same can be said for our remaining senses, they are all mere tools to conceptualise various projections of the world.
Hence, why it is said in yogic philosophy, the way we feel on the inside is directly related to the way we perceive the world on the outside.
How Concepts & Emotions Arise
When somebody wears a dress, we all process an image of this garment, and dependent on our preferences and conditioning, go on to determine whether the dress is indeed beautiful or not.
We each have developed our own set of internal concepts, which explains why one person may love a particular dress whilst another person may hate it.
Either way, the dress has remained the same; all that has changed are our individual perceptions.
Ultimately, for us to like anything in this world, we need to have certain neuro patterns to be able to realise and accept any objects, feelings or emotions presented in front of us.
These internal patterns then determine our reactions to any outside stimuli.
The important wisdom to realise here is that our perceptions, likes, dislikes, emotions, feelings, passions and aversions all come from within our minds and not the outside world.
For instance, if somebody shouts at us, we may feel angry, and justify our anger by blaming the other person, but in reality, the mature spiritual yogi will always be aware that anger has risen within them due to their own internal concepts and reactions.
The reasons why we become angry are immaterial, the fact remains, at that moment in time we have lost control of our emotions and our own limitations have been exposed.
I’m not saying it’s wrong for us to ever get angry. Nor am I saying it’s wrong for us to ever show any emotion.
The reasons why we feel or behave a certain way are of no concern to any yogi; what I am saying is that we need to be aware that these feelings, in reality, are a result of our own internal projections.
Understanding Real Love
Having established the nature of the mind, and how it affects the way we feel, we can now move on to the topic of love and indeed the initial question “What Is Real Love?” Yogic Vedanta philosophy is rooted in the belief that love is our very existence and already prevalent within us all.
Nobody needs to teach us how to love. Nor can anyone intellectually rationalise what love really means. It’s simply a state of existence, a natural component that is already within us all.
Nobody needs to teach a baby how to love its mother; nobody needs to teach a mother how to love her baby.
However, as we grow older, for whatever reasons, our mind becomes conditioned to finding love by looking on the outside. Common terminology, such as, “this person is my better half” or “this person completes me”, are grossly distorted and could not be further from the truth.
No one can ever complete you. Happiness can never be found on the outside. Everyone needs to wake up to this fact: true happiness, and true love, can only ever come from within.
“I Love You” has to be the biggest lie ever spoken. We should instead say, “Because of you, I am in love.”
Happiness Always Comes From Within
Real love is what flourishes from inside our very being. Whenever somebody is in line with our values, ethics and sensitivities in this world, we feel an innate connection to them.
Whenever somebody brings us closer to our real selves, we want them to remain closely associated with us. When two people can progress each other’s aspirations and beliefs in life, love will truly blossom.
If you are in a relationship, where you are experiencing negative feelings, or are unsure if this relationship is really the one that you want, never look to your partner or the outside world for your answers.
As stated in this article, look within yourself, and first identify what is happening within your own mind.
No one will ever understand your own mind better than yourself, so don’t look for others to tell you how you should feel. Real love is not a phenomenon that can be explained by anyone or anything, it’s a natural entity within us all.
A partner will either bring out these internal qualities, or suppress them, but before looking at your partner, first of all, look deep within, and understand what is stopping you from being happy yourself.
If you find yourself getting angry, feeling frustrated, or becoming jealous, realise these are due to your own limitations, and not an outside person.
Again, I’m not saying it’s wrong for you to feel the way you do, I’m merely stating a yogic truth that only you can be responsible for your own emotions.
Understanding Your Mind Will Lead You To True Love
Once you have a firm understanding of your own mind, and why you feel the way you do, it becomes a much easier task to determine how a partner can fit into your own world.
Relationships only become complicated when we hang our expectations of happiness and love on other people.
Once we take responsibility for our own emotions and the way we feel, only then can we even begin to understand what “real love” actually means.